It's bigger on the inside... |
We visited the Horne Lake caves on Vancouver Island near
where our middle son lives.
Getting ready. |
The area is beautiful and the caves undeveloped and natural,
which we found exciting.
But I learned something unexpected from the experience.
Let me tell you about it . . .
We went, first of all, for our son, who has Tourette’s and suffers
from anxiety.
The fact that he acceded to our wishes to explore the caves
is a testament to his courage, his trust in us and/or his very good team of
health professionals.
Things started out well.
We donned our protective gear and mugged for a couple of pictures.
Then our guide started out with us trailing (pun intended) along behind him
down the forest path. A couple of young women were in our group just ahead of
us and when we got to the very narrow cave opening, the one put up her hands
and said, “Nope. Can’t do it.” They were guided to a secondary cave a short
distance away. One without the ‘turn-sideways-and-suck-in-your-gut’ entrance.
I followed the guide, a little anxious for my son coming
along behind me.
But then we reached the first cave and there he was. (Handsprings
are not encouraged inside these caves. Just FYI.)
I had to keep my celebrating to a “Well done, Son!” and a
smile.
We continued on through the ‘mud room’ and the ‘boulder room’
and the ‘crystal room’.
A lot of rooms.
Crouching and sliding to get from some to others.
And still my son stayed with us.
Sometimes even leading.
We saw rock formations that flowed and dripped.
Myriad colours and shapes and sizes.
Were told ‘not to touch that!’ or ‘Ooh, feel how cold this
is!’
Lots of things to look at and experience.
A couple of times, I saw my son look upward toward the sky
of stone above us.
I did the same.
Then realized that things down below were lots more
interesting if I didn’t think about the tons and tons (and tons) of rock
hanging over our heads.
We made it through, unscathed and perhaps a little more
knowledgeable than when we had gone in.
And with an increased respect for my son’s courage.
But then I thought of something else.
Something that was only peripherally related to the caves we
had just explored . . .
Success! |
Those caves were like our little piece of our world.
There is much that is scary hanging over our heads. Crime.
Terrorism. Natural disasters. Disease.
We could allow this to paralyze us and keep us from going
forward.
Or we can maintain our focus and simply carry on. Not let
fear stop us.
Keep on exploring.
Keep on living.
Which do you choose?
I choose to keep moving in life, but I'm not sure I could choose that cave! A bit of a phobia of small enclosed places here ... Well done, indeed, to your valiant son. And his parents, too.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I'm a little 'iffy' with enclosed spaces as well. Amazing what you will do to make it okay for your children! :)
DeleteWhat a great experience and a great philosophy for life! I choose exploring and living.
ReplyDeleteWe'll let you know when the next 'caving' experience comes along, Haralee!
DeleteAlthough reason tells us to keep on exploring, keep on living, the paralysis of anxiety can often overpower reason. I'm so proud of your son, and all you do to support him. I have a son I'm trying to support right now too. Unfortunately the only way to support him is to try to pull him towards rock bottom (pun intended).
ReplyDeleteWishing you all the best with your son! Amazing what we find we can do simply to support them, isn't it?!
DeleteI can have a life or an existence. I choose life. It costs more, hurts more and is worth immeasurably more.
ReplyDeleteAnd big, big smiles for your son.
Oh, I SO agree!
DeleteAnd thank you, EC. He was smiling pretty big as well. We all were!
I'm in the simply carry on group. I don't let any fear of what might happen keep me locked up inside my house.
ReplyDeleteI feel very proud of your son, which is a little odd because I don't know him at all, but woo-hoo! conquering the caves!
Thank you, River! Keep on keeping on!
DeleteI guess I'm sort of half and half.....if something really matters to me I carry on but other times I will let fear and insecurity rule me (I prefer to call it prudence).
ReplyDeletePrudence often gets me as well. Husby gets me out of the house on those days! :)
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