As I was driving to the city for an appointment yesterday, I
saw two trucks stopped on a frontage road paralleling the highway.
They had been travelling in opposite directions and had
pulled over next to each other in the centre of the road so the drivers could
chat.
It brought back memories . . .
In the fifties, in the sparsely-inhabited and phoneless outer
ranchlands of Southern Alberta, neighbours didn’t see each other much. Busy
with ranch demands and family life, they only got together at county shindigs
and the occasional branding or barn dance.
Oh, they travelled the same roads to and from the nearest
towns, but the chance of running into one another on those long trails was slim
to nil.
When it did happen, it was cause for excitement . . .
A cloud of dust appears on the horizon, slowly coalescing
into a dark spec. Then into a vehicle.
As it draws closer, said vehicle is recognized – a friend or
person who is not yet a friend.
The vehicle slides to a stop in the middle of the road.
Your car does the same and you look out to see that the
other person is already leaning on his crossed arms out his open window – ready
for a chat.
Everyone in each vehicle crowds around their driver for a
peek and a listen.
Inevitably, there’s a few minutes of chatter, beginning with:
“Well, Enes! I haven’t seen you in dog’s years! How are you? The kids? And how’s
Mark?”
And Mom’s answer: “Oh, everyone’s fine. Busy. You know.”
“Heading into town?”
“Oh yeah. This crew never stops eating. And I have to make a
call at the hardware and the shoemakers.”
“Yeah, the missus sent me on much the same errands. Oh, she’d
like to drop by sometime, if that’s okay.”
“I’m always happy to see her! Tell her to bring the kids
down for an afternoon. They could go swimming.”
“Had any rain at the ranch? We’re so dry, the birds are building
their nests out of barbed wire and the trees are bribing the dogs.”
“You still have birds? And Dogs?”
“Good one.”
This goes on for some time. Until one or the other realizes
that they have to be somewhere . . .
Then it ends with: “Well, better get back. I’ve got ice
cream and we all know how much it likes this hot weather! Could you please tell
Mark that I’ve got those bulls that need testing and we still haven’t done our vaccinating.
Maybe have him stop by?”
“I’ll do that.”
“And you and the kids come by any time! The pot’s always on
and you know you’re always welcome!”
The driver shifts into gear and, with a wave, heads off down
the road.
We continue our trip, with us kids all swivelled around to
watch the truck disappear into another cloud of dust.
Communication.
On the prairies.
In the fifties.
It was always personal, neighbourly and eye-to-eye.
And you took it when you could get it.
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P.S We kids often re-enacted the whole visiting-on-the-road scenario. When playing with toy cars, we would inevitably stop beside someone else and discuss plans - which usually included going for groceries.
P.P.S. It was even funnier when we were playing with model planes. Did you know those guys can hover? Well, when they see someone they know, they can hang there for inordinate amounts of time and discuss the weather.
So much I love about internet and cell phones, but what we're missing more and more is looking each other in the eye. Pleasantries? No time for that in a text.
ReplyDeleteThe bare minimum and no eye contact. Sigh.
DeleteThis was a fun look at something we didn't really do in my community, seeing as we lived on the Trans-Canada Highway and there were a lot of tractor trailers using it. (Before the Trans-Canada we had the little meandering highway, on the other side of our house, but it was also the main road at that point so it was still not a good idea to stop and chat :) ...)
ReplyDeleteI love the photo illustration!
Yikes. I'd have to agree. When living on a major route, alternate forms of communication must be found! :)
DeleteWe did that. And when we were at the store, even for a few things, it took forever because you had to stop and chat to everyone.
ReplyDeleteI did like living in a community. And miss it.
Amazing, isn't it, that those old ways take on a whole new meaning now. I miss it, too!
DeleteThat could happen driving through town as well. I remember being with Dad many times when that happened. And when I started driving, the same thing. It's too bad that life got so busy that no one has time to stop in the middle of the street to chat. Maybe we should take some irons out of the fire and slow down to enjoy more of life's little treasures...
ReplyDeleteStupid irons . . .
DeleteThat used to happen when we lived in KY, but here well I don't know anyone to talk to haha!
ReplyDeleteI'm the same. I barely know my neighbours!
DeleteSo much better than cell phones!
ReplyDeleteRight?
DeleteReminds me of my town childhood; if two mums were outside hanging washing, they didn't get back in until they'd leaned on the fence and had a good chat, sometimes one would hop the fence and go into the other house for a cup of tea and the chat would continue all morning.
ReplyDeleteExactly. Such peaceful, unhurried times!
DeleteAh those were the days.
ReplyDeleteAt the risk of sounding trite: Those were the days! :)
DeleteYes, those were the days!
ReplyDeleteLove,
Chris