In her own words.
From Grandma Stringam's journals:
Part One.
Part Two.
Part three . . .
When he came, he asked my mother if I could go to the Fourth
of July celebration at Thurber and then stay overnight with his family and
attend a wedding dance there the next night.
She said yes, I could go.
When I arrived there, George’s half-sister was there and
while we were visiting she said to me, “So you are here on inspection.”
I said, “Am I? I didn’t know that.”
She said, “Yes, but don’t be nervous.”
I had a great time those two days and when he took me home
he told me he would be seeing me during the summer.
My mother’s two brothers and her brother-in-law lived close
together, so close that they could carry on conversations without leaving their
lots. The morning after the dance, Uncle Charlie was standing on his step and
called over to Uncle Alex and said, “Vina’s got the right one now. Everything
is all right.”
Uncle Alex seemed to feel the same way and shouted back that
he thought it was a fine thing.
Uncle Alex’s wife came out then and said, “Oh you come in
and shut up. They can hear you all over town!”
I [also] knew I had my Uncle Walter’s approval because he
told me some time before this, “There is only one man I know that is good
enough for you and I’m afraid you won’t get him because I think he will marry
May [George’s first wife]’s sister.
My Aunt Sarah May had a son and a daughter who had finished
school in Teasdale and were wanting to go to Provo to go on with their
education. She knew I wanted to go to Provo, too. She suggested that I come
along with her and some of her children and spend the summer on the Dark Valley
Ranch. There we would make cheese and butter.
George and his father was running their cattle on the
near-by mountain and George cane to check on them several times during the
summer.
It was during this time that he asked me to marry him.
I told him I would marry him, but I also told him that I
would like to go to school in Provo at least one year.
He said, “Well, I think you should go to school. I’ll wait
for you. If you want this year there I think that’s what you should do."
When we finished at the ranch, I came home and started to
get ready for school, Grandma took me to task. She said, “Lovina, I don’t think
you should go away to school.”
I said, “Why not, Grandma?”
She said, “Because that man is older, quite a bit older than
you. He is ready to get married and maybe he will take someone else while you
are gone. You know a good man for the rest of your life is better than one year
at school.”
“Oh, but he wants me to go to school,” I said. “He thinks I
should have one year at Provo and he will wait for me.”
She looked quite relieved and said, “Then it’s all right if that’s what he said.”
It's interesting that Grandma told me that story almost verbatim from her journal. I remember Grandma telling me about her fortune being told in tea leaves. The lady doing the reading told her about the man riding the white horse and leading a white pack horse....
ReplyDeleteOoh! I never heard that story. Tea leaves! Hmmm . . . .
DeleteIt all seems so.....business like......doesn't it.
ReplyDeleteSort of a 'this is my life' series . . .
DeleteI am so glad that she was encouraged to get that year at school.
ReplyDeleteI thought that was particularly unique! In 1904!
DeleteIt's funny, I had the completely opposite impression from Delores! I think this was very romantic because they gave serious contemplation to the things that count, the solid underpinnings of a good relationship. And they respected their own and each others' wishes. That, to me, is a love that will last.
ReplyDeleteTheir entire relationship was built on mutual respect. They were unusual people. Especially for their time!
DeleteIn those times, a man who respected the wishes of the woman he loved to get additional education showed true love and respect, indeed.
ReplyDeleteI think it's truly remarkable. He was ahead of his time. Both of them were!
DeleteGrandma Stringam was a smart (and beautiful!) woman.
ReplyDeleteI wonder if it will trickle down to her granddaughters?!
DeleteI love the blog post, and you helped me make such a fun card with it!
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