Ray Tolley, my father-in-law (hereinafter known as FIL) was a man of integrity. Honest, forthright and industrious, he worked the land on his farm near Fort Macleod, Alberta with skill and patience, gleaning a good crop from the dry land every year but one until his death at the age of seventy.
FIL was a man of faith. Of deep thinking and wisdom.
He was also a man with a wicked sense of humour. Because, let’s face it, how could one have endured the hours he did sitting on a tractor, without one?
From using a ruler to measure ability (which was inevitably ‘nigh onto nothing’), to posing the conundrum, ‘which would you rather be – dumber than you look or look dumber than you are?’ to which the forgone conclusion was always, ‘How could you?’ (Yeah. Try to get out of that one . . .), FIL personified the image of weather-beaten farmer, tanned of face, hard of muscle and clever of tongue.
He had many sayings, most gleaned from family, neighbours and reading, but my personal favourite was when he’d come home and dramatically exclaim to his grandkids that, “I almost saw a coyote today!”
Inevitably, one or more of the younger kids who hadn’t heard this one before would get caught up in the conversation. “Really, Grandpa?” Then the reality of the statement would sink in. “Ummm . . . how do you almost see a coyote?”
The slow grin. The uh-oh look. The sure sign that someone had taken the bait and was about to be ‘had’.
Then, the punch line.
“If he’d been there, I’d have seen him!”
FIL left us nearly 40 years ago and, if he were still alive would be well past 100. But when one of his sayings crops up in a conversation, we know he’ll never truly be gone.
There it is! |
Never gone, and still missed.
ReplyDeletePerfectly said, EC!
DeleteGone but not forgotten several generations later is a high compliment indeed.
ReplyDeleteOhmyword, yes, Alana!
DeleteI still remember his funeral. The church was packed all the way back to the stage at the back of the cultural hall. There must have been 600 or more people there. That said everything to me!
I always liked Ray. He was a great example to us all...
ReplyDeleteHow true! And how I miss him! I was thinking...I only got to have him for a FIL for 6 years. And what an impact he made in that short time!
DeleteI love the memories that sneak up to surprise us and make is smile. Given my druthers, I would further be remembered like that.
ReplyDeleteMe, too, Debbie! Me, too.
DeleteWe supposedly have a coyote family living in the creek not far from here, but i hope that i only continue to almost see them. He sounds like a great man and a good man.
ReplyDeleteIn normal times, a coyote is the sneakiest but timidest (is that a word?) predator out there. Totally afraid of man. But we don't have anything resembling 'normal' any more. So keep almost seeing them!
DeleteHe was a good man, Mimi. I'm forever sad I had him as a FIL for such a short time!