Sometimes, our experiences define us.
When he was 19 years old, Husby went to live, for two years, in France.
As a Missionary.
It was an exciting time. A time of growth, education and change.
And of new and varied experiences.
One of the latter had such a profound effect on him that it defined his life . . .
He and his companion were visiting with a woman teetering on the very brink of disaster.
She had been married. But to an abusive animal of a husband whose daily and favoured recreation seemed to be the use of his very manly fists.
With his wife as the target.
When he finally abandoned them, he left her and their two children completely destitute.
Desperate to feed her small family, the wife, after much tearful consideration, decided the best course would be to send her small son and daughter to live in the very large and efficient orphanage some ten miles away. Knowing, even as she did so, that she would seldom, if ever, be able to even visit.
This was the situation when Husby came by.
At the end of their call, the mother tearfully begged them to make the ten mile trip to visit her children.
They agreed to do so, covering the distance fairly easily on their bicycles.
Husby clearly remembers his first glimpse of the massive building – a former hospital – now given to the housing and feeding of hundreds of young children.
There were children everywhere. Clothed and clean and obviously well-fed, but almost without adult contact.
He and his companion made their way to the main office and inquired after the two children. They were directed to one of the wings of the building. Carefully, they mounted stairs and counted doors, coming at last to a massive room.
The young boy – about nine – and his younger sister met them in that doorway.
Husby peered into the room and saw literally hundreds of beds placed in regimental order down each side of the huge room.
Here was home.
Clean. Tidy.
Institutional.
Their only adult supervision supplied by the nurse in charge and their daily contact with their teachers.
Husby thought of their grieving mother and his heart melted inside him.
He and his companion spent a few minutes chatting with those children, but in that few minutes, he was changed forever.
Into the loving, giving caretaker of any child – every child - he sees.
Sometimes, our experiences define us.
And sometimes, though the experience is painful, it’s for the good.
Husby doing what he does so well... |
I don't even know how to comment. Your description made the scene come alive for me. Who could not be moved? I wonder what happened to those two children.
ReplyDeleteHe still wonders. And prays for them!
DeleteI feel absurd saying that the first time I left my kids overnight (with my mom, no less) I barely survived it, I missed them so much. That woman's heartbreaking experience sure puts a lot into perspective.
ReplyDeleteOhmyword, I totally understand, Karen! Husby got me to come with him for a weekend. Then a week. Then two. Each time, I stewed so much over my kids I couldn't really enjoy the holiday. As they've gotten older, I'm a bit better. Now I worry over the grandkids--but at least I know they are being well looked after!
DeleteThe things we do for our children can break our hearts, and shape others.
ReplyDeleteSo very well said, Mimi!
DeleteThat poor, poor woman. How I wish that she was alone in her experiences. Her life changing experiences.
ReplyDeleteI fear it happens far, far too often in this world, EC. Tragic.
DeleteHow I wish that all young adults could have their hearts touched with that compassion. The world would be such a different place.
ReplyDeleteSo true, Jenny!
DeleteIt shaped husby into a awesome father. What a touching story!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, Marcia!
DeleteWhat a story. Being clean and well fed are not the only, nor even the most important things in life. Love is. I feel with the poor mother, and I love how this shaped your hubby.
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